Trust.... (Minor update)

Ran & Nadine
Originally uploaded by Nadine Nozaki

A blog entry from Well ehh, she don't have her name on the blog so I'll not spell it out :-) Or it's in the URL, Daisy. Make me think about the most important commodity in SL. [Update: Also dandellion Kimban's blog made me have this in a list of need to write stuff.]

Trust

How can one act to people with out trust? How can one trust people? There are some people I really trust in SL. Why do i trust them. One think is sure Identity Verification will not help me trust anyone. In RL i don't trust a person just because that can ID them self. I'm sure that the person behind the counter at the convince store, the petrol station, don't trust me just because I used my ID to get money from my credit card. Yes in Sweden ID is very often needed to used the credit card. Know the identity of someone don't build trust. What you do and how you act does.

Chrome @ Home
Originally uploaded by Nadine Nozaki

I trust Chrome, I'm sure she won't lie to me. I trusted her long ago I knew anything about her RL. I know a little now because I trust her. She know most of all in SL about me because I trust her. Would seeing her ID the first day have changed this? Maybe, but probably not to trust her more. With giving out that comes the question why. Have I looked at the ID of any of my RL friends, yes sure some, especially to see an ugly photo they have on there drivers licence. Have I done this before or after I started to trust them. After in all cases. Would I show my ID to someone I don't trust? To buy stuff, to take out money, of if it's a police, yes sure. Some other, no, that would definitely lower my trust in the person, why would then feel like they need to know how I am. Asking for ID is a sure sign that they don't trust me, so why should I trust them?

How do we build trust?

The first rule of trust is never lie. Not saying stuff is no problem, I don't give out any information about my RL, other that I'm Swedish. People seam to be able to trust me despite this. But I never lie to hide any details, lies always get out. That's the way it is, being honest and truth full is really important in RL. But it's so much more important in SL. Also keep in mind that in SL there are many different cultures, many different subcultures. I often RP, the personality I show up is different.

Sweet red kiss II
Originally uploaded by Nadine Nozaki

The second rule is "No Drama!". Second life as all electronic forms are great for misunderstandings they live there own lives. Be open make sure you understand the person before you do anything. If you think something sounds strange, or wrong ask again. Cultural and language difference make stuff hard to get right. It's better to look like a fool asking twice, that to prove you self being one acting on the misunderstandings.

Also trust your friend with there privacy. Don't spread rumours, don't tell anyone else what you heard in privacy. Even if you might think it's the right think to do. It's really hard and can put you in hard positions. When I know much about some one from private conversations I often get into the positions where I have to tell about it. I don't know how many times I answered friend with "I can't answer you on that, I know to much." Even people I trust very much so far I all person have understood that and respected that I keep out of that subject. The hardest questions in this is probably if you find out that a friend is cheating on a friend. It's really, really hard in that case. I would never tell, I would how ever talk serious with the cheater, doing my best to convince about rule 1, "Tell the truth".